Dear Expected Birth Mother,
In these trying times we all face challenges - some hard, others seemingly impossible - and for some people, like myself we must endure whatever comes our way alone, with limited resources and very few people, if anyone at all who understand the fear which courses through our body like an electric shock and fills us with a fright we don’t understand; a sensation of some sort that we may fail, or perhaps even that we are making the wrong choice, or maybe even allowing the wrong people to have an influence in our life. I want to thank you for having the courage to make the difficult decision of putting your own flesh and blood up for adoption, and alike thank you for giving me the opportunity to have a child of my own who I will love endlessly, protect, teach, and enlighten with knowledge which will ensure that she grow up to be strong, wise, resilient, successful while all the while happy and healthy. I know the thought of a single parent can make anyone hesitant to trust that he or she will have the ability and determination to raise a child alone. Though, as you come to know me you will most likely agree with others that I am well deserving of the nickname “The Man of Steel.” I can guarantee you that no child of mine will ever have to question if he or she is loved, every day I will remind [my daughter] that she is my everything, my beloved. I know the road ahead of me will not be an easy one though like the old saying goes, “Anything worth doing is not easy,” and I too believe that life gives us struggles not to hurt us but to makes us stronger. No matter what the future brings for me and my daughter I will stand by her when she is feeling down, support her and build her confidence up when it is dwindling, teach her that the only voice worth listening to is the one which is inside her own head; that the opinions of others are just that – opinions. It is her actions that will determine the person who she eventually grow into not what she says to others or vice versa. I will instill in her the faith and devotion to follow her own heart and not who is trending on social media, to remain focused and diligent in all she does because hard work and sacrifice does indeed pay off.
In December 2015, I moved from New York to West Hollywood, California where I began to bring my life’s ambitions to fruition. Not long after relocating I formed my own media company where I film and photograph red carpet events to publicize film and television as well as help bring awareness to many exciting Galas and charity event alike. I am also a successful filmmaker and former SAG stunt professional with an impressive resume. However, what I am most proud of is my accomplishments as an author. To date I have written many books ranging from self-help, motivational and sci-fi and fantasy. One series in-particular details my own personal struggles and how I have grown into the person I am today; I have been told by readers that it is “an honest and heartwarming story about triumph over adversity.” I have even went as far as to detail why I want to adopt and what compels me to believe that doing so is the right choice after all. It wasn’t an easy decision but being adopted myself I feel that I will be able relate to an adopted child of my own, help her understand the confusion and conflicting thoughts that she will surely have as she grows into an adult; I am confident that I will be able to explain to her that being adopted isn’t a bad thing, nor does it mean that someone gave you away because they
didn’t want you but rather quite the opposite; giving up a child is a selfless act. For me being adopted is like a badge of honor and I am proud to have been welcomed by open arms into a loving family who helped to mold me into the person I have become today. Growing up I watched my father devote himself to his wife and children. He was the president of his own financial printing company, and my mother a successful bankruptcy lawyer. It is without a doubt that their work ethic helped to fuel my own passions and continued to motivate me to never give up on my dreams. Yet, as unexpected as it may sound to some I went even farther and expanded on the teachings [of my mother and father] and relentlessly and often times painfully continued down a path that was littered with failure. Over the course of these trials and tribulations I came to the understand what Albert Einstein meant when he said, “You can never fail until you stop trying.” Those words trigged something in my own brain and gave me unwavering strength to overcome challenges that would surely kill an average person. Today, I have surpassed all expectations I had set out for myself all those years ago. I even sometimes hear myself speaking to the wind and saying, “If they could only see me now!”
Growing up in Long Island, New York was far different from than a person may think or for that matter as it is often times portrayed in the movies. Life in Long Island was not hard at all, it was often times peaceful and serene where the only noise outside my bedroom window was the sound of birds chirping or the coo of a pigeon. Not far from my home there was a Dunkin Donuts which I would visit every morning while on my way to school where I would stop to get my usual extra-large cup of coffee. Yet, I always fancied leaving New York and traveling to see the country and all the wonders that were out there. I guess you could say that I am a simple guy with simple needs. Aside from the glitz and glamour of the red carpet I can be found most often at home sitting on the patio, watching nature and enjoying a cool summer afternoon. While doing so I often recall the people who over the course of the last few years have asked me, “Why do you want to adopt a girl and not a boy?” The answer to that question is a simple one – there are no girl grandchildren in my family. My mother (and even my aunt alike) have always dreamed of having a granddaughter who she can pamper and spoil but in a good way and for that reason I think adopting a baby girl is the right choice – the only choice. Please call J & J Adoptions (866) 358-0111 if you would like to learn more about me.
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